Does Adultery Affect Your Divorce Settlement?

All 50 states offer no-fault divorce, but most also allow fault grounds as an alternative. New York added no-fault divorce in 2010, but adultery remains a listed fault ground under the Domestic Relations Law. Filing on fault grounds does not guarantee a financial advantage, it opens certain arguments that no-fault filing forecloses.

For the legal definition of adultery and civil claims like criminal conversation or alienation of affection, see our separate adultery law overview.

In fault-based jurisdictions, an adulterous spouse can face a reduced or denied maintenance award. Some states bar spousal support for an adulterous spouse outright unless denial would cause genuine hardship. New York's approach is more restrained. Marital fault is not a listed maintenance factor under the Domestic Relations Law, and courts here focus on financial need, the length of the marriage, and earning capacity. Adultery alone rarely shifts the numbers in a New York maintenance case.

Where fault does carry weight on alimony, courts typically look at:

• How long the marriage lasted and the standard of living the couple maintained
• Whether marital funds went to support the affair, through hotels, gifts, or separate housing
• The financial positions of both spouses after separation
• Whether the infidelity contributed directly to the end of the marriage

Financial need does not disappear from the equation even in fault states. Courts will sometimes award reduced maintenance rather than deny it entirely to avoid genuine hardship. An attorney who handles spousal support disputes can assess how much weight your jurisdiction gives to each factor.

Adultery's effect on property is less predictable than its effect on spousal support, and in New York the bar for fault to matter at all is significantly higher.

Courts apply the best interest of the child standard in every custody decision. Adultery does not automatically factor into that analysis.

Infidelity becomes relevant when it connects directly to the children. Courts may consider it when:

• The affair partner was introduced to the children in ways that created instability
• The unfaithful parent neglected parental duties significantly during the affair
• The relationship raises a safety concern, such as a history of violence or substance abuse in the third party

Adultery without a direct connection to the children's welfare is unlikely to shift custody. Judges focus on the parent-child relationship. Private adult behavior that had no impact on the children's daily lives generally does not change the outcome. For a closer look at how courts apply the best interest standard, see our child custody page.

Filing on fault grounds is a cost-benefit decision, not just a moral one.

Fault filing can strengthen a financial position in some jurisdictions, but it means broader discovery, higher fees, and personal details on the public record. In New York, where courts rarely shift financial outcomes on marital fault alone, no-fault filing often produces similar results with less exposure.

If you plan to raise fault grounds or argue that marital funds were dissipated, courts generally accept:

• Digital communications such as texts and emails, if obtained lawfully
• Financial records showing withdrawals, charges, or transfers tied to the affair
• Witness testimony from people with direct firsthand knowledge
• Travel and location records that place both parties together

Evidence gathered through unauthorized account access or illegal tracking software can be excluded and may expose you to separate legal liability.

Does adultery automatically reduce the cheating spouse's alimony?

No. In New York, marital fault is not a listed maintenance factor. Courts focus on financial need and marriage length. In some other states adultery can reduce or bar alimony, but even there it is one factor among several.

Can I lose custody because of an affair?

Unlikely, unless the affair directly affected the children. Courts look at the parent-child relationship, not private adult conduct that had no impact on the children's lives.

My spouse spent marital money on the affair. Can I recover it in a no-fault state?

Yes. Financial dissipation is a separate argument from fault grounds and is available whether you file on fault or no-fault. Courts in both types of states will consider it when dividing property.

Does it matter who files first?

In most states, filing order does not affect which party's conduct is examined. If you can show the other spouse committed adultery, you can raise it regardless of who filed first.